To recap again, there is no perfect family. Why is this so?
Lets do a family analysis. In the previous post, it was mentioned that the parents, generally, are the ones who steer the ship to the right course. They need to have the navigational aids to do this. One of the navigational aids is tolerance. If there is an absence of tolerance between both the parents, then the ship will drift in the sea with no direction.
The most ideal case is for both the parents to have a high level of tolerance. Unfortunately, this is never the case. Most often than not, only one of the parents will possess this tolerance and also to what level, is again another matter.
There are instances when both the parents do not possess tolerance at all. This kind of families normally will have much grievances between the members.
There will be no communication but arguments.
A high level of tolerance exercised by the parents will calm the family and any child, who has a temper will be mellowed down. Tolerance, together with patience, is the best navigational aid to steer a family to peace and happiness.
This subject on tolerance will be continued in later posts.
There are other family navigational aids which will be discussed in later posts.
STEER THE FAMILY IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Morning blues in the Family
I am sure the term 'morning blues' is very familiar in the family circles. Generally, most families will experience this.
What is morning blues?
Occasionally, one of the family members gets up grumpy in the mornings. It can be anyone in the family. The mum or dad or anyone of the children. This is very easily seen on the affected person's face.
In such circumstances, it is best not to talk to this family member until he/she returns to normal senses. To talk or say wrong things like, 'hey, what is wrong?' or 'why, what is your problem?' or any other negative statement will only add fuel to the fire.
Never further aggravate the situation. Just DO NOT communicate with this family member.
Such morning blues are temporal and last a few minutes. These are minor things that can can explode if treated wrongly.
FAMILY TIPS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
What is morning blues?
Occasionally, one of the family members gets up grumpy in the mornings. It can be anyone in the family. The mum or dad or anyone of the children. This is very easily seen on the affected person's face.
In such circumstances, it is best not to talk to this family member until he/she returns to normal senses. To talk or say wrong things like, 'hey, what is wrong?' or 'why, what is your problem?' or any other negative statement will only add fuel to the fire.
Never further aggravate the situation. Just DO NOT communicate with this family member.
Such morning blues are temporal and last a few minutes. These are minor things that can can explode if treated wrongly.
FAMILY TIPS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Week end in the Family Haven
Beautiful weekend, was it? Always target fruitful family weekends. Weekends are supposed to reset and refresh your minds to face the coming week. May it be for the children who are going to school. They too need to unwind and refresh their minds. Those who are going to work and especially the housewives, who really need the weekend rest and unwind.
I hope all families are following the Family Haven daily to improve and enhance the family relationships.
HAPPY WEEKEND IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
I hope all families are following the Family Haven daily to improve and enhance the family relationships.
HAPPY WEEKEND IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
Saturday, September 26, 2009
A Good Morning in Family Haven
How should we start the family morning? How happy and fruitful the rest of the family day is going to turn out to be will greatly depend on how the parents start the family morning.
Both the parents are the captain of the ship and it depends on them to stir the ship to the right course.
So what can the parents do to start a happy day?
Simple. Inject Positive Vibes into the family the first thing in the morning. It need to be just a simple smile. Give a beautiful smile and a greeting to your kids. Maybe a loving hug for your daughter. Spotting a sweet loving smile, wish them a happy day in their school or office. Give a loving kiss to your wife and vice versa, in front of your children. This radiates happiness to the whole family.
Do this simple loving ritual daily and see the happiness build-up in your family.
Try it now.
HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
Both the parents are the captain of the ship and it depends on them to stir the ship to the right course.
So what can the parents do to start a happy day?
Simple. Inject Positive Vibes into the family the first thing in the morning. It need to be just a simple smile. Give a beautiful smile and a greeting to your kids. Maybe a loving hug for your daughter. Spotting a sweet loving smile, wish them a happy day in their school or office. Give a loving kiss to your wife and vice versa, in front of your children. This radiates happiness to the whole family.
Do this simple loving ritual daily and see the happiness build-up in your family.
Try it now.
HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN
Thursday, September 24, 2009
More Family Information in Family Haven
Calling all families. Come to the Family Haven for daily updates. There's a lot more family information, guides and tips to come.
Eventually, Family Haven will be for all to refresh themselves here. The main objective of this center is to bring joy and happiness to all families.
So come and tune in to this Blog daily and voice out whatever your needs or wants are by writing in the comments.
The whole world listens to you.
THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Eventually, Family Haven will be for all to refresh themselves here. The main objective of this center is to bring joy and happiness to all families.
So come and tune in to this Blog daily and voice out whatever your needs or wants are by writing in the comments.
The whole world listens to you.
THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Monday, September 21, 2009
Trust in the Family
There is a wonderful thing that all little children are born with. This is known as 'trust' or 'innocent trust for the parents'.
They whole-heartedly put their trust on their parents.
For a moment, pause and playback your memories to when you were a little kid. I am sure you can remember incidents when you placed your full innocent trust in your parents. You were positively sure, without a doubt, that they were not going to let you down. You always looked up to them for your needs. There was this child like trust in you.
As you grow older, this trust for your parents still exist, but is not as strong as it was compared to when you were a kid. It is no more that innocent trust but merely trust minus the innocence.
PLACE YOUR TRUST IN THE FAMILY HAVEN FOR YOUR NEEDS.
They whole-heartedly put their trust on their parents.
For a moment, pause and playback your memories to when you were a little kid. I am sure you can remember incidents when you placed your full innocent trust in your parents. You were positively sure, without a doubt, that they were not going to let you down. You always looked up to them for your needs. There was this child like trust in you.
As you grow older, this trust for your parents still exist, but is not as strong as it was compared to when you were a kid. It is no more that innocent trust but merely trust minus the innocence.
PLACE YOUR TRUST IN THE FAMILY HAVEN FOR YOUR NEEDS.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
The Family Life Cycle 3
Yes, we are still on the subject of the child's 'mind of their own'.
Let's look at children in their teens or older. The teenage kids tend not to follow what the parents say or ask them to do. Why? This is because the 'mind of their own' in them has developed to a higher level stage. The have their own opinions, normally not in tune with the parents.
Here again, it depends on the age of the parents in comparison with the children. The wider the age gap, the more pronounced will be the 'mind of their own' effect.
If the parents are of the 'no patience type, or have very little tolerance and understanding, then the worst can happen. This is when the children start confiding with their close friends instead of their parents.
This does not mean that the children are loosing their trust in their parents but rather, the children are now in a high level of the 'mind of their own' stage.
At this time, parents should learn to exercise patience, tolerance,and understanding and try to cope with their teen kids.
Why not follow this - if you can't fight them, then join them.
Well you can't do that, can you? The situation needs to be studied carefully here.
We shall come BACK to this subject in later posts.
TIPS IN FAMILY HAVEN.
Let's look at children in their teens or older. The teenage kids tend not to follow what the parents say or ask them to do. Why? This is because the 'mind of their own' in them has developed to a higher level stage. The have their own opinions, normally not in tune with the parents.
Here again, it depends on the age of the parents in comparison with the children. The wider the age gap, the more pronounced will be the 'mind of their own' effect.
If the parents are of the 'no patience type, or have very little tolerance and understanding, then the worst can happen. This is when the children start confiding with their close friends instead of their parents.
This does not mean that the children are loosing their trust in their parents but rather, the children are now in a high level of the 'mind of their own' stage.
At this time, parents should learn to exercise patience, tolerance,and understanding and try to cope with their teen kids.
Why not follow this - if you can't fight them, then join them.
Well you can't do that, can you? The situation needs to be studied carefully here.
We shall come BACK to this subject in later posts.
TIPS IN FAMILY HAVEN.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
The Family Life cycle 2
This post is a continuation of the 'Family Life Cycle'.
Yes, we are in the subject of the 'mind of its own' Please refer to previous post to get a better idea of what we are discussing.
As the child grows, the percentage or the degree of the 'mind of its own' progresses or increases. The higher the level, ahhh.., the more problems. The little child will tend to 'protest' on certain things.
Later, stubborness and 'wanting their own ways' will be expressed by the growing child. It is still okay at this stage as the child is still cute and young. The parents will gladly tolerate the child at this time.
What happens as the child grows bigger and bigger and the level of the 'mind of its own' further increases?
We shall study this in the next post.
THE FAMILY HAVEN WAY OF KNOWING YOUR FAMILY.
Yes, we are in the subject of the 'mind of its own' Please refer to previous post to get a better idea of what we are discussing.
As the child grows, the percentage or the degree of the 'mind of its own' progresses or increases. The higher the level, ahhh.., the more problems. The little child will tend to 'protest' on certain things.
Later, stubborness and 'wanting their own ways' will be expressed by the growing child. It is still okay at this stage as the child is still cute and young. The parents will gladly tolerate the child at this time.
What happens as the child grows bigger and bigger and the level of the 'mind of its own' further increases?
We shall study this in the next post.
THE FAMILY HAVEN WAY OF KNOWING YOUR FAMILY.
Monday, September 14, 2009
The Family life cycle
The family life cycle - what is this, one may ask.
How can we look at this life cycle and learn something from it that can enhance our present family life.
Look back to the day when your first new born baby came into this world. Wow! the excitement and the happiness the little prince or princess brought for you. Words cannot describe that happiness.
The little cute child was fully dependent on you. Why? The reason being is that, the child did not have a 'mind of its own' as yet.
It is this 'mind of its own' that later will progressively bring about those little problems initially and later develop to bigger ones.
A bit of mind boggling, yeah?
I will elaborate on this in my next post. Meanwhile, ponder on it.
THE FAMILY HAVEN WAY TO KNOW YOUR FAMILY.
How can we look at this life cycle and learn something from it that can enhance our present family life.
Look back to the day when your first new born baby came into this world. Wow! the excitement and the happiness the little prince or princess brought for you. Words cannot describe that happiness.
The little cute child was fully dependent on you. Why? The reason being is that, the child did not have a 'mind of its own' as yet.
It is this 'mind of its own' that later will progressively bring about those little problems initially and later develop to bigger ones.
A bit of mind boggling, yeah?
I will elaborate on this in my next post. Meanwhile, ponder on it.
THE FAMILY HAVEN WAY TO KNOW YOUR FAMILY.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
More on Family Types
So far four family types have been discussed more in general. We have done a comparison as far as age is concerned.
In the future postings, more in-depth studies shall be undertaken especially taking into account the character aspect of the family. The character introduces another variable apart from age. The last four family types only took age as a factor.
The more variables we introduce, the more complicated will the analysis be.
More often than not, we shall take age as the main criteria in deciding the family type.
More on this to come.
HAPPY WEEKEND IN FAMILY HAVEN.
In the future postings, more in-depth studies shall be undertaken especially taking into account the character aspect of the family. The character introduces another variable apart from age. The last four family types only took age as a factor.
The more variables we introduce, the more complicated will the analysis be.
More often than not, we shall take age as the main criteria in deciding the family type.
More on this to come.
HAPPY WEEKEND IN FAMILY HAVEN.
Friday, September 11, 2009
Another Family Type in Family Get-together
Again, we discuss another family type. This time we see what happens when both the parents are still young but with full grown-up children.
Any of you belong to this category? OK, lets see.
The parents are still young. So what happens? Yes, you guessed right. The parents will be very open-minded and will accept all the present trends and changes. Lucky for their daughters. Why? the parents will like to see their daughters in the latest fashionable clothes. There will be no disputes regarding this.
The house will incorporate the latest electronic devices, the latest cell phones and computers.
Generally, the parents and their children will get along well. They understand each other better. They make good companions and the best of friends.
The right term to use here will be, there is no generation gap between them. Towards idealism I suppose.
Is this or will this be a perfect family. This will be very subjective. If we go to the depth of it, then character analysis will have to be taken into consideration.
But lets look at on the surface of it and not get into any complications for the moment. In-depth analysis will be left for later posts.
We can generalize that this will be an innovative family.
FAMILY GET-TOGETHER IN FAMILY HAVEN
Any of you belong to this category? OK, lets see.
The parents are still young. So what happens? Yes, you guessed right. The parents will be very open-minded and will accept all the present trends and changes. Lucky for their daughters. Why? the parents will like to see their daughters in the latest fashionable clothes. There will be no disputes regarding this.
The house will incorporate the latest electronic devices, the latest cell phones and computers.
Generally, the parents and their children will get along well. They understand each other better. They make good companions and the best of friends.
The right term to use here will be, there is no generation gap between them. Towards idealism I suppose.
Is this or will this be a perfect family. This will be very subjective. If we go to the depth of it, then character analysis will have to be taken into consideration.
But lets look at on the surface of it and not get into any complications for the moment. In-depth analysis will be left for later posts.
We can generalize that this will be an innovative family.
FAMILY GET-TOGETHER IN FAMILY HAVEN
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Family Types in the Family Haven
Okay, we have already seen two family types so far. Refer to the two previous posts if you are not sure of what I am saying.
Next we have young parents with young growing children. What kind of atmosphere would you expect in the home?
This will be easy to guess. Young parents are generally still in their youthful stage, fast moving and able to cope with the fast changing world outside. Young children are still in the 'running around' stage and the parents will cope well with this kind of situation. They are not tired out and in fact love it this way.
The home will be noisy and full of activity. At this stage, there is a lot of interactivity within the family as well as communication.
It will be all up to the parents to keep the home happy.
So those parents who fit this situation, Family Haven wishes you all the happiness.
The Family Haven.
Next we have young parents with young growing children. What kind of atmosphere would you expect in the home?
This will be easy to guess. Young parents are generally still in their youthful stage, fast moving and able to cope with the fast changing world outside. Young children are still in the 'running around' stage and the parents will cope well with this kind of situation. They are not tired out and in fact love it this way.
The home will be noisy and full of activity. At this stage, there is a lot of interactivity within the family as well as communication.
It will be all up to the parents to keep the home happy.
So those parents who fit this situation, Family Haven wishes you all the happiness.
The Family Haven.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Family Interactivity
Family Interactivity! I mentioned this in one of my previous posts. I need to elaborate a little on it.
Without interactivity within the family, the family, even if there are more than two or three children, the family is 'dead'. By this I mean, every body keeps to himself/herself and it will seem as though no family exists in the household. It will not be a fun family.
Oh, what a waste! So much of effort taken to raise up a family, I'm sure you all know the sleepless nights that you had to undergo, and now there is no interaction in the family. Why on earth was such a family raised. For heaven's sake, enjoy your blessed family life. There are people out there crying to have a family.
Can't you just sit down with your family a few minutes a day and just talk and talk and talk. Then laugh and laugh and laugh. So difficult!
GET YOUR HAPPINESS FROM THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Without interactivity within the family, the family, even if there are more than two or three children, the family is 'dead'. By this I mean, every body keeps to himself/herself and it will seem as though no family exists in the household. It will not be a fun family.
Oh, what a waste! So much of effort taken to raise up a family, I'm sure you all know the sleepless nights that you had to undergo, and now there is no interaction in the family. Why on earth was such a family raised. For heaven's sake, enjoy your blessed family life. There are people out there crying to have a family.
Can't you just sit down with your family a few minutes a day and just talk and talk and talk. Then laugh and laugh and laugh. So difficult!
GET YOUR HAPPINESS FROM THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Family types in the Family Haven
The last post on family type reflected on elderly matured parents with fully grown-up and matured children.
Today we shall do a study on elderly matured parents with young growing children. What do you think will be the effect on the family ? What will be the good and bad points, if any ? Try to analyse it yourself for a moment, especially if the cap fits you.
Have you finished your analysis ?
Okay then, let's look at it now.
Firstly, coping with the young active minds and their exposure to the present fast changing world.
Generally, the elderly parents are not able to cope with the new technologies, the present mindset of the younger generation. There will be a lot of why's and don'ts in their conversations. Their conservatism will clash with the modern trends of their growing children.
If the parents are not understanding, arguments will tend to take place in the home.
So what can be the solution ? There definitely has to be a compromise. One side has to give way.
The changing world is inevitable. Such parents should try to keep up with the present day changes, try their best to accept the technological advancements and learn from their children. This is the only way to have a happy family.
Take note that the children are NOT going to change. The world is not going to change.You have to keep up with the changing world.
LET'S HAVE HAPPY FAMILIES IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Today we shall do a study on elderly matured parents with young growing children. What do you think will be the effect on the family ? What will be the good and bad points, if any ? Try to analyse it yourself for a moment, especially if the cap fits you.
Have you finished your analysis ?
Okay then, let's look at it now.
Firstly, coping with the young active minds and their exposure to the present fast changing world.
Generally, the elderly parents are not able to cope with the new technologies, the present mindset of the younger generation. There will be a lot of why's and don'ts in their conversations. Their conservatism will clash with the modern trends of their growing children.
If the parents are not understanding, arguments will tend to take place in the home.
So what can be the solution ? There definitely has to be a compromise. One side has to give way.
The changing world is inevitable. Such parents should try to keep up with the present day changes, try their best to accept the technological advancements and learn from their children. This is the only way to have a happy family.
Take note that the children are NOT going to change. The world is not going to change.You have to keep up with the changing world.
LET'S HAVE HAPPY FAMILIES IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Saturday, September 5, 2009
A week-end in Family Haven
Hi families around the globe. How are you spending your week-end. Do take some of the advices in the last posts. Have a family gathering, or make it a point to have lunch or dinner together. All these adds more closeness to your families. This has already been said in the previous posts.
Please put to practice some of the family tips that have been mentioned.
There is more to come each day and make it a point to visit this blog daily.
Lets have a good enjoyable and rewarding weekend to bring closeness to our families.
HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Please put to practice some of the family tips that have been mentioned.
There is more to come each day and make it a point to visit this blog daily.
Lets have a good enjoyable and rewarding weekend to bring closeness to our families.
HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Friday, September 4, 2009
Are there perfect families ?
The saying is, "there are no perfect families", or put in another way, no family is perfect.
I have seen perfect families, no kidding, yes, I can vouch for it.
You need certain ingredients in a family in order for them to be perfect. Now, what do you think could be these ingredients ?
Let me tell you. They are simply a high degree of patience, tolerance, love and understanding. The greatest of them all is Love. Patience will eliminate quick- temper.
How are these applied in the family ? Both the father and mother must have these traits. If only one of them has it, then sorry, it does not work. For this reason, perfect families are few but they exist.
If both the parents have these virtues in them, automatically, it is passed down to their children.
Now we have a whole family which possesses these golden virtues and you will actually see a perfect family.
For those who are hot-tempered, please read this.
For your information, quick temper or hot-tempered is the most feared trait to have. It causes harm in families. For those who have this trait, please exercise calmness in yourself. If you feel that you are going to explode, pause and take in deep breaths and breath out slowly. It truly works. Try it the next time. Also it is best that you stay quiet without saying anything. These are exercises that you must work out in times of trouble.
STRIVE FOR HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
I have seen perfect families, no kidding, yes, I can vouch for it.
You need certain ingredients in a family in order for them to be perfect. Now, what do you think could be these ingredients ?
Let me tell you. They are simply a high degree of patience, tolerance, love and understanding. The greatest of them all is Love. Patience will eliminate quick- temper.
How are these applied in the family ? Both the father and mother must have these traits. If only one of them has it, then sorry, it does not work. For this reason, perfect families are few but they exist.
If both the parents have these virtues in them, automatically, it is passed down to their children.
Now we have a whole family which possesses these golden virtues and you will actually see a perfect family.
For those who are hot-tempered, please read this.
For your information, quick temper or hot-tempered is the most feared trait to have. It causes harm in families. For those who have this trait, please exercise calmness in yourself. If you feel that you are going to explode, pause and take in deep breaths and breath out slowly. It truly works. Try it the next time. Also it is best that you stay quiet without saying anything. These are exercises that you must work out in times of trouble.
STRIVE FOR HAPPINESS IN THE FAMILY HAVEN.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Elderly Parents in the Family Haven
The last post, yes, talked about family types where the parents are aged and the children have all grown up and matured.
Here, the children should ensure healthy aging for their elderly parents. The children should act as motivators and encourage and help their parents to exercise.
They should be patient and spend time in getting their elderly parents to move physically and perform exercises that are suitable for them.
In this away, the parents will feel that they are cared for and lead a better quality life. The children could also exercise with them and have fun together.
SHOW LOVE TO YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS.
Here, the children should ensure healthy aging for their elderly parents. The children should act as motivators and encourage and help their parents to exercise.
They should be patient and spend time in getting their elderly parents to move physically and perform exercises that are suitable for them.
In this away, the parents will feel that they are cared for and lead a better quality life. The children could also exercise with them and have fun together.
SHOW LOVE TO YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Family Types
I call this family types. All of you see many families around you. They could be your own children now married with a family. Your relatives and their families. Your friend's families. I have been mentioning the word 'families' so many times.
Why? Yes, it is a beautiful word. A wonderful word. A word that denotes happiness.
Okay now, let me talk about family types. There are four types I believe. Let's analyse the first type.
Elderly parents with fully grown-up and matured children.
In this kind of families, because of the maturity in all the family members, the household tends to be quiet. Conversations are more serious and the grown-up children tend to spend much time on their own. If they are married with kids, then the grand-parents will have something to look forward to.
Generally, much respect can be seen among the family members. The elderly parents tend to keep to themselves and normally go out on their own.
Happiness, trust and respect holds the family together.
FAMILY HAVEN, THE PLACE FOR ALL FAMILIES
Why? Yes, it is a beautiful word. A wonderful word. A word that denotes happiness.
Okay now, let me talk about family types. There are four types I believe. Let's analyse the first type.
Elderly parents with fully grown-up and matured children.
In this kind of families, because of the maturity in all the family members, the household tends to be quiet. Conversations are more serious and the grown-up children tend to spend much time on their own. If they are married with kids, then the grand-parents will have something to look forward to.
Generally, much respect can be seen among the family members. The elderly parents tend to keep to themselves and normally go out on their own.
Happiness, trust and respect holds the family together.
FAMILY HAVEN, THE PLACE FOR ALL FAMILIES
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Come to the Family Get-together Haven
Come families, come. This is the place for all families all over the globe. Come, read the family information that is updated on a daily basis. Get your tips here. Family tips and even job tips.
Soon more and more information will be added, including keeping yourselves healthy. Yes, what I mean is health tips, for both the elders and the young and still growing.
Write your comments on anything that comes to your mind, in the comments area. It is okay even if it is a family problem and advice is sought. Let the families in the Family Haven give you some of the answers. Remember, for any problem, there is a solution, especially in the family haven.
COME TO THE FAMILY HAVEN
Soon more and more information will be added, including keeping yourselves healthy. Yes, what I mean is health tips, for both the elders and the young and still growing.
Write your comments on anything that comes to your mind, in the comments area. It is okay even if it is a family problem and advice is sought. Let the families in the Family Haven give you some of the answers. Remember, for any problem, there is a solution, especially in the family haven.
COME TO THE FAMILY HAVEN
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