Family Celebrations

Hi Families, let's talk about the various family occasions or functions. We have the birthdays, the anniversaries, mother's day and father's day etc..etc.
Do you all celebrate each of these functions in your family?
Oh, please make it a point to do so. A lot of families have this habit of celebrating the birthdays of all the members in the family. That's wonderful! Keep on doing it.

Celebrating of birthdays should start from the time your children are small and should be followed right through their adulthood. The mums and dads too should likewise, have their birthdays celebrated.

We also have other significant days like the parents' wedding anniversaries, probably the graduation day of one of the family members.
Make it a point to have family celebrations. You will notice how the family becomes close during a family celebration. Certainly, these family functions builds up the family bond to make the family stay together.

A birthday can be simple with just a birthday cake and with some additional goodies. It can be kept just within the family circle. This has an advantage for all the family members to stay close with one another.

Family Celebrations brings the families closer. Have fun in your family.

A Family weekend

Hi to all families. Today is Sunday 8th November.
It is the end of another weekend. So did you all spend your weekends together as a family?
Remember, it is always important to have your lunch or dinner together as a family. Have fun together, communicate and interact with one another. Families tend to become close-knit in this way.

Have weekend outings together. Did you all do this? I guess you all did. A refreshed and happy family weekend will give you a good start on a Monday. Try this. It's true!

Look at this Happy Family in the picture above.

Coping in the Family

One common family issue or difficulty faced by many families is how to cope with certain family members.
There are different scenarios in the family. Examples are, aged grandparents living together with young members in the family. Another case is aging parents themselves living with their own teenage or grown up children. In the mentioned situations, there appears to be a generation gap which is the root cause of many differences in opinions which results in arguments in the family. There has to be some action taken to stop these unpleasant arguments which is sometimes annoying and can go out of hand if not managed well.
So how do we cope with this problem. It is obvious that the very aged are normally stubborn and will not give-in. They are always right.
Therefore, one party definitely needs to give-in and it has to be the younger member always.
Practice, though it may not be easy initially, to either go with the flow or slowly pacify the situation by not adding fuel to the fire. Maybe, hold a perpetual smile on your face, do not reply to any illogical remarks by the aged or sometimes, cut off your hearing. Do not make this too obvious or arguments can be more heated.

Learn to keep yourself cool and calm and do not exchange any harsh words but say something pacifying. Next, try to slowly change the subject. Do all this with a smiling face.
Practice patience, tolerance and do not show temper.
Always take note that the aged like to nag, are fussy and are very petty. They have their own ways and their ways are always right, not yours.
They cannot change and do not accept changes. Traditional ways are always the best. This where the problem starts.
Most families will have this situation.

A family should learn to cope with the aged.

Family Weekend

All Families must have had a good weekend, hopefully. The weekend get-togethers has been mentioned many times in the posts. Please carry on with these fun together sessions. This is one of the surest ways to get your families come closer together and hence, build up a happy family. When you have a happy family, you will notice that every family has a healthy disposition in their faces. This in turn gives you good health. Make your home the happiest place to be in. A happy family is a healthy family.

We will look into family health and see the benefits it brings to one's family in a later post.

Weekend in Family Haven

Hi all wonderful families, happy families and beautiful families. The weekend is back again.
Again it is to be reminded, keep the weekend for your family get-togethers. Spend the days together, be together, involve in activities together. Eat together. This will bring quality into your family.
Most of all, come to this Family Haven Blog daily to attain your family comfort. More activities for children, teens and elders are being planned.

Make this your family companion.

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Tolerance in the Family

To recap again, there is no perfect family. Why is this so?

Lets do a family analysis. In the previous post, it was mentioned that the parents, generally, are the ones who steer the ship to the right course. They need to have the navigational aids to do this. One of the navigational aids is tolerance. If there is an absence of tolerance between both the parents, then the ship will drift in the sea with no direction.

The most ideal case is for both the parents to have a high level of tolerance. Unfortunately, this is never the case. Most often than not, only one of the parents will possess this tolerance and also to what level, is again another matter.

There are instances when both the parents do not possess tolerance at all. This kind of families normally will have much grievances between the members.
There will be no communication but arguments.

A high level of tolerance exercised by the parents will calm the family and any child, who has a temper will be mellowed down. Tolerance, together with patience, is the best navigational aid to steer a family to peace and happiness.

This subject on tolerance will be continued in later posts.

There are other family navigational aids which will be discussed in later posts.

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Morning blues in the Family

I am sure the term 'morning blues' is very familiar in the family circles. Generally, most families will experience this.
What is morning blues?
Occasionally, one of the family members gets up grumpy in the mornings. It can be anyone in the family. The mum or dad or anyone of the children. This is very easily seen on the affected person's face.

In such circumstances, it is best not to talk to this family member until he/she returns to normal senses. To talk or say wrong things like, 'hey, what is wrong?' or 'why, what is your problem?' or any other negative statement will only add fuel to the fire.
Never further aggravate the situation. Just DO NOT communicate with this family member.

Such morning blues are temporal and last a few minutes. These are minor things that can can explode if treated wrongly.

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Week end in the Family Haven

Beautiful weekend, was it? Always target fruitful family weekends. Weekends are supposed to reset and refresh your minds to face the coming week. May it be for the children who are going to school. They too need to unwind and refresh their minds. Those who are going to work and especially the housewives, who really need the weekend rest and unwind.

I hope all families are following the Family Haven daily to improve and enhance the family relationships.

HAPPY WEEKEND IN THE FAMILY HAVEN

A Good Morning in Family Haven

How should we start the family morning? How happy and fruitful the rest of the family day is going to turn out to be will greatly depend on how the parents start the family morning.
Both the parents are the captain of the ship and it depends on them to stir the ship to the right course.
So what can the parents do to start a happy day?
Simple. Inject Positive Vibes into the family the first thing in the morning. It need to be just a simple smile. Give a beautiful smile and a greeting to your kids. Maybe a loving hug for your daughter. Spotting a sweet loving smile, wish them a happy day in their school or office. Give a loving kiss to your wife and vice versa, in front of your children. This radiates happiness to the whole family.

Do this simple loving ritual daily and see the happiness build-up in your family.
Try it now.

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Trust in the Family

There is a wonderful thing that all little children are born with. This is known as 'trust' or 'innocent trust for the parents'.

They whole-heartedly put their trust on their parents.
For a moment, pause and playback your memories to when you were a little kid. I am sure you can remember incidents when you placed your full innocent trust in your parents. You were positively sure, without a doubt, that they were not going to let you down. You always looked up to them for your needs. There was this child like trust in you.
As you grow older, this trust for your parents still exist, but is not as strong as it was compared to when you were a kid. It is no more that innocent trust but merely trust minus the innocence.

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The Family Life cycle 2

This post is a continuation of the 'Family Life Cycle'.

Yes, we are in the subject of the 'mind of its own' Please refer to previous post to get a better idea of what we are discussing.

As the child grows, the percentage or the degree of the 'mind of its own' progresses or increases. The higher the level, ahhh.., the more problems. The little child will tend to 'protest' on certain things.

Later, stubborness and 'wanting their own ways' will be expressed by the growing child. It is still okay at this stage as the child is still cute and young. The parents will gladly tolerate the child at this time.

What happens as the child grows bigger and bigger and the level of the 'mind of its own' further increases?

We shall study this in the next post.

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The Family life cycle

The family life cycle - what is this, one may ask.

How can we look at this life cycle and learn something from it that can enhance our present family life.

Look back to the day when your first new born baby came into this world. Wow! the excitement and the happiness the little prince or princess brought for you. Words cannot describe that happiness.

The little cute child was fully dependent on you. Why? The reason being is that, the child did not have a 'mind of its own' as yet.

It is this 'mind of its own' that later will progressively bring about those little problems initially and later develop to bigger ones.

A bit of mind boggling, yeah?

I will elaborate on this in my next post. Meanwhile, ponder on it.

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Another Family Type in Family Get-together

Again, we discuss another family type. This time we see what happens when both the parents are still young but with full grown-up children.

Any of you belong to this category? OK, lets see.

The parents are still young. So what happens? Yes, you guessed right. The parents will be very open-minded and will accept all the present trends and changes. Lucky for their daughters. Why? the parents will like to see their daughters in the latest fashionable clothes. There will be no disputes regarding this.

The house will incorporate the latest electronic devices, the latest cell phones and computers.

Generally, the parents and their children will get along well. They understand each other better. They make good companions and the best of friends.

The right term to use here will be, there is no generation gap between them. Towards idealism I suppose.
Is this or will this be a perfect family. This will be very subjective. If we go to the depth of it, then character analysis will have to be taken into consideration.

But lets look at on the surface of it and not get into any complications for the moment. In-depth analysis will be left for later posts.

We can generalize that this will be an innovative family.

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Family Types

I call this family types. All of you see many families around you. They could be your own children now married with a family. Your relatives and their families. Your friend's families. I have been mentioning the word 'families' so many times.
Why? Yes, it is a beautiful word. A wonderful word. A word that denotes happiness.

Okay now, let me talk about family types. There are four types I believe. Let's analyse the first type.

Elderly parents with fully grown-up and matured children.
In this kind of families, because of the maturity in all the family members, the household tends to be quiet. Conversations are more serious and the grown-up children tend to spend much time on their own. If they are married with kids, then the grand-parents will have something to look forward to.

Generally, much respect can be seen among the family members. The elderly parents tend to keep to themselves and normally go out on their own.
Happiness, trust and respect holds the family together.

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Come families, come. This is the place for all families all over the globe. Come, read the family information that is updated on a daily basis. Get your tips here. Family tips and even job tips.
Soon more and more information will be added, including keeping yourselves healthy. Yes, what I mean is health tips, for both the elders and the young and still growing.

Write your comments on anything that comes to your mind, in the comments area. It is okay even if it is a family problem and advice is sought. Let the families in the Family Haven give you some of the answers. Remember, for any problem, there is a solution, especially in the family haven.

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Happy children means happy family

Lets talk about happiness among the children. This can be seen if you have two or more children.
Make sure there is plenty of communication and interaction between the children. It is wonderful to see them together, having discussions, fun and laughter. Today, with the introduction of the computer, it's good to see them playing games together. This enriches the relationship between the children and prepares for closeness when they are adults. This is of utmost importance in order to have a close-knit and a happy family.

Respect within the Family

Who respects who, you may ask. Isn't respect an important element in the family?
Look at the parents first. They are the man and wife to each other and the father and mother to their children. The husband must respect his wife and vice versa. This respect between the parents must be seen by their children.
Does it stop here?

No, it goes down further than that. The parents must pass down this respect to their children, that is, they in turn must respect their children.
Isn't this the other way round?
No, simply because, the children are their own flesh and blood. Therefore, the parents must respect their children. When the children feel and see this respect, they in turn will show respect for the parents.

What will be the end result? A CLOSE KNIT FAMILY!.

Hi Families in Haven

Activities! Yes, this is what is in my mind the whole day today. I was out in the city today, doing a bit of shopping in one of the supermarkets. Do you know what caught my attention the most? There were a few families, together discussing what to buy, browsing together, making a little bit of jokes here and there at some of the items. Yes! this is it, I said to myself. Activities, Family activities is the keyword. Simple activities like shopping together. You do not have to plan such big outings. Just a simple one will do. The most important tip here is togetherness.

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Invitation to the Family Haven

Hi, are you all there? The Haven invites all families around the world to write in the comments area any issues of family interest, start discussion topics and just write and write and write.(comments? ahh.. you find under each post)
The Family Haven is taking off with a good start and is going to grow and grow so enormous that all family information can be derived from here.

Come families, come! The place to get recharged and leave with a smile.

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Tips for a close-knit family

Parents, I am sure you would all agree that it is not easy to have a perfect family.
So, what do you think we should do ?

Communicate! Yes, communication is so important in a family. This is missing in many families. Could be on of the main problem that leads to families not being close.
So what do we do?
Very simple. Just sit down with your whole family and talk and talk and laugh and laugh.
Is that difficult to do? Not at all.

Please for Heaven sake, DO NOT start debates and eventually arguments during family communication. This is Always the Common Mistake. Avoid this at all cost.

How about playing games together? Wow, this is a very good ingredient for a happy and loving family. Play table games, maybe a card game or even a game of monopoly. This will lead to fun and laughter.

Is that difficult? NO!

Ahh... how about planning Family Travels together. Maybe within your own country, or to another country. You will be amazed how close your family becomes.

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